A divorce can either be a good, bad, or ugly affair, depending on how the couple arrived in the situation. There are cases where the couple mutually agrees to the divorce and settle it amicably. There are cases where one of them is reluctant but has to give in anyway. And then, in some cases, it can be quite a messy episode.
In general, a divorce causes distress, and many people who go through this seek emotional support. Many turn to their friends and family. Some go on a vacation, while others develop a new hobby to take their minds off the difficult situation. Meanwhile, others resort to social media as an emotional outlet.
Michigan Divorce Facts
According to the report from the Michigan Department of Health and Human Services (MDHHS), the divorce rate in this state is lower than anywhere else in the United States. Its overall divorce rate from 2013-2017 is 11.5%. Here are the other Michigan divorce facts:
- The No-Fault Divorce Law allows an individual to file for a divorce without the need to establish any wrongdoings of the other party. One only has to provide information about the troubled status of the marriage, which is beyond repair.
- Michigan has a 60-day evaluation and waiting period for couples without children; with children, it could take about 6 months. Divorce is granted after this waiting period.
- In Michigan, there is a median length of 10 years and 5 months before the divorce for first marriages. In second marriages, divorce happens much sooner.
- Alimony is usually granted, but not in all cases. Some factors include assets and property, length of the marriage, and health, among others.
- Custody of the child/children is granted based on some factors, like ties or emotional attachment, the capacity to provide and care for the child, and the physical and mental condition of the parent, among others.
The Effect of Social Media on Divorce
Social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn allow us to interact with others instantly. It also serves as a channel for us to share some details of our lives. But in certain situations, especially one that involves legal matters, it’s best that we take a time-out from using social media.
Social media posts can negatively impact legal proceedings, including divorce. For example: if you upload a picture of yourself on a holiday after you have told the court that you’re broke, it can be used against you. And no, the post does not have to be set privately for the eyes of your friends only – because not everyone is a friend. You and your ex-spouse have common friends, and one of those friends can be a sharer of news to the other.
Do not underestimate the power of social media. As much as it can contribute to the breakdown of a marriage, it can also lead to an ugly, messy divorce.
Top 10 Social Media Mistakes: Avoid Doing These
Exactly what should you avoid doing while your divorce is in the works, as far as social media is concerned? Essentially, you should use social media sparingly, if not avoid it altogether. But if you must choose it, remember not to commit the following mistakes:
- Deleting posts that could be used against you
It may seem counter-intuitive, but deleting social media activities is, in a way, considered an admission of guilt. Skilled computer forensics can dig up deleted posts, and when they have dug up one, you can be charged with destruction of evidence. Remember, anyone can take a screenshot of a post before it’s deleted. It’s best to leave the posts as is.
- Making detrimental posts that can work against you
Posting about an expensive purchase or luxurious holiday after telling the court that you don’t have the capacity to give child support will backfire. Uploading a photo of or mentioning about alcohol and drug use presents you as an unfit parent.
- Using social media to rant or pick fights in public
Complaining about your ex-spouse online paints you in a negative light. More so, if you try to pick public fights with your ex.
- Spying your soon-to-be ex
Spying or snooping is a crime, and whatever evidence you gather by snooping through your ex’s private correspondences will never be admitted in court.
- Posting information about the divorce
As much as possible, avoid publicizing your divorce online. Better keep private information private; only share with the people you have 100% trust with. But don’t do it online.
- Being careless about uploaded photos that include you
Avoid being photographed with a person you could be linked with, which may spark accusation of cheating. Likewise, be mindful about being photographed while consuming alcohol. These can have negative impacts on your divorce proceeding.
- Allowing friends or family members to post details concerning your divorce
Avoid discussions of your divorce online. Also, ask your friends and family to refrain from commenting or uploading photos concerning your life while in the process of getting divorced.
- Being insensitive about your child/children’s feelings
Always be considerate of how your child/children will feel when you post about their other parent. If they’re on social media, they can see what you share with the rest of the world about their other parent, and it can be quite hurtful for them.
- Not being careful about sharing your location
It is best to disable your location access or GPS in your apps, especially if you and your child/children’s safety are of primary concern. It can also hurt the outcome of your divorce proceeding if you were found to be frequenting places you should not go to.
- Posting about a new romantic connection with someone
Life goes on; it is okay to meet someone new. But to be safe, try to keep this new romantic relationship under wraps until after the divorce proceeding. Even if it started after the breakdown of your marriage, this new relationship could be misconstrued.
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